Question:   Although I am not a shadchan, I try to keep an open eye for our young men and women still looking for "their right one.” I often find myself in the following predicament and would love some opinions and advice from the panel.    Sometimes I give a name to a parent/shadchan and they will...Read More

Question:   I'm a single girl in my early twenties. Boruch Hashem, I get dates often enough. My dating has been fairly typical, with some mutual no’s, some good tries, and some "no shaychus" dates.    The thing is that I have a family situation. It is not something that has to do with me personally, and...Read More

Question:    What can I do to get a shadchan to return my calls? I understand that a shadchan cannot return every call, but sometimes?    And why is it that my friend's calls are always returned? On paper, there is no difference between our daughters. Both attended the same schools, both are bright and personable. Can the only...Read More

Question: I'm a 23-year-old boy and still don't feel like I'm ready to get married. My parents tell me that I'm ready, but I'm unsure. Who's right?Read More

Question: In the dating process, how does one turn a superficial, casual relationship into a real, deep, close one? I dated someone for a while and really liked him, but my biggest concern was that our relationship was hardly deeper or more personal on the 7th date than it was on the 2nd. I felt that...Read More

Question: I have heard lately that along with the growing use of “shidduch groups" to network and share résumés and information about singles for shidduchim, there has developed a situation whereby many singles who meet a shadchan privately end up getting posted and mass shared without having granted permission. When they find out, they are...Read More

Question:   The current structure of shadchanus of compensation upon a completed shidduch with nary an allowance for the level of difficulty in getting that particular shidduch off the ground would seem to discourage shadchanim from focusing the majority of their time on singles who are less easy to set up.    In addition, the current structure, which makes no allowance for the...Read More

Question: As shadchanim, it seems that singles confide in us. Perhaps you can share some ideas of how we can display our care for them. Are there things they want to hear or specific things they don’t want to hear? What can we do to show that we really care? Read More

Question: Our son is learning in Eretz Yisroel, where he went out with a girl from America who was on vacation there. It was made clear to the girl’s family that our son is a very serious learner and wants to learn long-term. We told the shadchan this numerous times before and during the shidduch, and we asked...Read More

Question: I'm a 20-year-old girl who has grown up in a home of Torah. My father is a hardworking person who learns during every minute he has available. We have a large family and my parents barely make ends meet. I want to marry a serious learner, but every boy asks if my parents will...Read More