Navigating the shidduch parsha can be akin to traversing a vast forest in the dead of night with no torch in hand. As a result, decisions are made, often inadvertently, that may be counterproductive or even harmful. It is my hope to shed light on a few areas of concern that have presented themselves recently....Read More

Question: I am married, boruch Hashem, but after having been in shidduchim for a while, I’m still somewhat traumatized from the whole process.  I can’t seem to shake the feeling of resentment toward our community. Why is shidduchim so humiliating? From being told that you are on someone’s waiting list, to going months without knowing when you will date next, to running...Read More

Question: I recently redd a shidduch and the boy and girl went out one time. Strangely, after the first date, I was told by the chosson’s mother that the boy and girl will set up the next date and that I won’t need to be “bothered” with it. I was happy to hear that the...Read More

Question: I have been on the receiving end of many shidduch reference calls for girls. Sometimes, the callers ask broad, general questions, while other times they ask many questions about all kinds of details. In general, I have found that few people ask the questions that will get the answers that really matter, such as (for a girl):...Read More

Question: I am dating a girl who, it turns out, is “cooler” than my parents had thought she would be based on their research. In truth, I wasn’t looking for someone “cool” either, but we’ve gone out several times and have a good rapport. We have really hit it off and she has a wonderful,...Read More

Question: I am from out of town and have already gone to meet shadchanim in the tri-state area twice. I have probably met about twenty-five shadchanim already. My mother wants me to go to more places, but I think I’ve met enough people. When do I say, “Enough”? All I need is one boy from one...Read More

Baltimore, MD – Rabbi Shraga Neuberger was the featured speaker at the Shidduch Center of Baltimore’s recent evening of shidduch hadracha for young men. Rabbi Neuberger discussed some of the most fundamental challenges that singles encounter in shidduchim and shared a wealth of information and advice with the many young men in attendance, some of...Read More

Question: I try to be involved in shidduchim when I can. Recently, two different people who I red shidduchim to asked me the same question. I was caught off guard and would like your advice on how I should have answered. While redding shidduchim to these people, they asked me, “Would you be meshadech with the people you are redding to us?” I knew...Read More

Shidduch Gems: Words of Wisdom & Points to Ponder Since our revitalization this past summer, The Shidduch Center of Baltimore has been diligently working on fulfilling its mission statement: “to create and facilitate dating opportunities for Baltimore singles.” Our goal and hope is that our renewed efforts on behalf of Baltimore’s singles will provide guidance...Read More

Question: “Bochurim should enter shidduchim earlier.” We hear that all the time. So here I am, a 21-year-old bochur who feels that he is ready to enter shidduchim. But how do I do that? My parents will think I lost my mind. And am I to blame for wondering how my friends going to react?...Read More