Question: “Bochurim should enter shidduchim earlier.” We hear that all the time. So here I am, a 21-year-old bochur who feels that he is ready to enter shidduchim. But how do I do that? My parents will think I lost my mind. And am I to blame for wondering how my friends going to react?...Read More

Question: I’m currently dating a girl and it is going well. Not long ago, she went out with a friend of mine multiple times. (I don’t know who ended it.) Is it okay to bring up his name on a date? I am afraid that marrying this girl will ruin my relationship with my friend...Read More

Question: Some of your panelists have, in the past, mentioned that we have a dating crisis. They have pointed out that it is so hard to just get people to go out on a date. I have been thinking of a new proposal that I believe could really change the dynamics of our shidduch system....Read More

Question: I am 24 years old and have been dating for five years. Sometimes I’ve said no, sometimes the boy said no, and sometimes it was mutual. I have no regrets, and if I’d start all over from 19, I wouldn’t do anything different. Up until this point, I’ve gotten dates pretty easily, but since I’ve turned...Read More

Question: A professional shadchan redd a very lovely young man to my daughter. They went out a few times, but somehow they were not a match. Having met the young man at my house and from what my daughter told me, both my daughter and I think it would be a very good idea for a...Read More

Question: Is it okay to ask a boy on a date if he follows sports? Answer: At first glance, I was quite puzzled as to what exactly the questioner was asking in this week’s Shidduch Forum question. In discussing the question with others, it was elucidated to me that more likely than not, the questioner...Read More

Shidduchim: It’s Everyone’s Thing Practical Ways to Help Create Dating Opportunities Dear Community Members, I am most appreciative of the very warm reception that I have been given from the community in my new position at The Shidduch Center of Baltimore. We were greatly pleased with the turnout at our educational event for parents last...Read More

Question: I think that older siblings who have been “skipped” may relate to my question. I am a twenty-four-year old single girl and my younger sister recently became engaged. I find myself in an uncomfortable and pressured position now to give what is commonly referred to as “mechilah,” either by expressing it verbally to my...Read More

Question: Is it okay to tell a young couple redding a shidduch that you are interested in the shidduch, but that you want to have an experienced shadchan redd it to the other side? The obvious downside is that it makes these wonderful people, who are constantly encouraged here and elsewhere to think of shidduchim,...Read More

Question: My daughter is 19 years old and back from two years of seminary. She is a capable, mature, solid girl who knows what she wants and the direction she wants to go in. We are also looking forward to help supporting her family for a while in order to allow her husband to learn...Read More