Question: Is it okay to ask a boy on a date if he follows sports? Answer: At first glance, I was quite puzzled as to what exactly the questioner was asking in this week’s Shidduch Forum question. In discussing the question with others, it was elucidated to me that more likely than not, the questioner...Read More

Shidduchim: It’s Everyone’s Thing Practical Ways to Help Create Dating Opportunities Dear Community Members, I am most appreciative of the very warm reception that I have been given from the community in my new position at The Shidduch Center of Baltimore. We were greatly pleased with the turnout at our educational event for parents last...Read More

An Open Letter to The Baltimore Community from The Shidduch Center of Baltimore Dearest Valued Community Members, This open letter to my beloved community is meant to serve as both a re-introduction and an introduction: a re-introduction of our organization and an introduction of myself, Shlomo Goldberger, in my new role within our organization. Many...Read More

Question: I think that older siblings who have been “skipped” may relate to my question. I am a twenty-four-year old single girl and my younger sister recently became engaged. I find myself in an uncomfortable and pressured position now to give what is commonly referred to as “mechilah,” either by expressing it verbally to my...Read More

Question: Is it okay to tell a young couple redding a shidduch that you are interested in the shidduch, but that you want to have an experienced shadchan redd it to the other side? The obvious downside is that it makes these wonderful people, who are constantly encouraged here and elsewhere to think of shidduchim,...Read More

Question: My daughter is 19 years old and back from two years of seminary. She is a capable, mature, solid girl who knows what she wants and the direction she wants to go in. We are also looking forward to help supporting her family for a while in order to allow her husband to learn...Read More

Question: Thank you so much for this wonderful forum. I have a daughter in the parshah and have gained a lot of insight from these columns. I know that there is some debate regarding the acceptability of shadchanim taking money up front before meeting girls. I’m not sure I agree or disagree with the practice, but three...Read More

Question: A recent Yated letter compared shadchanim to realtors, who are generally only paid on commission.

The letter commented on the noticeable difference in the level of personal service offered by realtors (as well as the time realtors invest in each and every attempted home sale) versus the letters writer’s experience with shadchanim. The writer therefore...Read More

Question:   We are blessed to have a wonderful 19-year-old girl in the parsha. We get redd shidduchim quite a bit and hope to soon find the right one.   We attached a picture of our daughter to her résumé. In the photo, she is elegantly dressed for a friend’s chasunah. Very often, we receive requests from the boy’s parents...Read More