Yated Shidduch Forum 2/26/21: Why Does No-one Ever Call Me Back?
Question:
I spoke to the mother of a boy to find out some details about her son to see if he would be a shidduch for my friend. (This boy is my brother’s friend.) After I had asked all my questions, I emailed her with the résumé of my friend. After about a week, she had not responded, so I sent another email, asking if she can confirm that she received the résumé. Still no response. About two weeks later, I called her and she said, “Oh, thank you so much for thinking of my son, but I don’t think that it is for him.”
Honestly, where is the mentchlechkeit in that? Someone took the time to think of your son and you couldn’t even respond with an email? For myself, it’s frustrating, but for my friend, whom I called to get her résumé, it can be so unsettling to know about an open shidduch. (I had those experiences as well.)
My basic question is: What happened to just being a mentch?
Thank you.
Answer: