Yated Shidduch Forum 10/16/20: I Am Limited in my Dating Options due to Covid. How do I Properly Communicate This Challenge to Shadchanim?
Question:
I am an easygoing out-of-towner who has been in shidduchim for a couple of years. With different Covid restrictions in different places, and each city responding differently, there are potential problems that can come up while traveling in to date. If I would have to fly in to date, according to state rules and CDC regulations, I would be required to quarantine before the state allows me to go out and date, and when returning home, I would have to quarantine as well. I am okay with doing that. However, because traveling in to date at this time requires many sacrifices, I would want to do a little more than the usual inquiries to make sure that I am not flying in for a “one-and-done.”
My question is what I should or should not say when contacting shadchanim to ask for new ideas. If I explain to the shadchanim that there may be these difficulties, I fear that they will think of me as picky and hard to work with and choose to not help me at this time. If I do not explain what I will have to go through in order to come in to date, then I fear that if a shidduch comes up, the shadchan may be upset at me for asking them to help me if there are so many obstacles in the way.
How do you suggest I handle contacting shadchanim during this time without ruining our already positive relationship?