Question: As the rov of a shul comprised of younger families, I have only begun to experience certain uncomfortable situations relating to fielding shidduch inquiries regarding members of our kehila. But while answering questions that seem to be just a portion of more comprehensive “investigations” presents its own challenges, what I am writing to you, Shidduch Forum panelists, about today is what you, based...Read More

Question: As parents, what should we ask our son after a date? How much information do we have to know?  We wish to note that it seems that as a result of fatigue, his mood after a date doesn’t necessarily reflect his feelings of the date itself. Your insight is appreciated. Answer: While the subject...Read More

To The Esteemed Shidduch Forum Panelists: Many of us have had some long dating sagas. It seems that the common factor in many of them was that there was something bothering either the girl or the boy since the beginning, but no one, not the girl nor the boy, wants to let a good shot...Read More

The Initial Reaction “Good evening, I’m calling regarding a shidduch. Do you have a few minutes to talk?” “My daughter was just redt (suggested to go out with) to so-and-so, what do you think of the idea?” “I was just redt to so-and-so, should I go out with her?” Once a shidduch is redt –...Read More

Tactics for Preparing References & Fielding Shidduch Calls In Part I of this series, we primarily discussed how crucial it is to be sure that when one is presented with a shidduch idea for feedback one’s response is substantive and thoughtful, and never purely reactionary. We concluded by noting that the most proper way to...Read More

Making the Call: Preparedness and Efficiency In the previous segments of this series, we discussed how to choose references for a shidduch resume and reviewed the skills necessary to be an effective and helpful reference. In this final segment of the series, we will consider those making the shidduch call and how one can successfully...Read More