Question: Thank you for considering our question, which is timely and is weighing on us very much. We are blessed with a son who is a metzuyan. You might say that we are biased parents, but we were told by his rosh yeshiva and his rabbeim throughout the years what an outstanding ben Torah he...Read More

Navigating the shidduch parsha can be akin to traversing a vast forest in the dead of night with no torch in hand. As a result, decisions are made, often inadvertently, that may be counterproductive or even harmful. It is my hope to shed light on a few areas of concern that have presented themselves recently....Read More

Question: I am married, boruch Hashem, but after having been in shidduchim for a while, I’m still somewhat traumatized from the whole process.  I can’t seem to shake the feeling of resentment toward our community. Why is shidduchim so humiliating? From being told that you are on someone’s waiting list, to going months without knowing when you will date next, to running...Read More

Question: I recently redd a shidduch and the boy and girl went out one time. Strangely, after the first date, I was told by the chosson’s mother that the boy and girl will set up the next date and that I won’t need to be “bothered” with it. I was happy to hear that the...Read More

Question: I have been on the receiving end of many shidduch reference calls for girls. Sometimes, the callers ask broad, general questions, while other times they ask many questions about all kinds of details. In general, I have found that few people ask the questions that will get the answers that really matter, such as (for a girl):...Read More

Question: I am dating a girl who, it turns out, is “cooler” than my parents had thought she would be based on their research. In truth, I wasn’t looking for someone “cool” either, but we’ve gone out several times and have a good rapport. We have really hit it off and she has a wonderful,...Read More